Once again, Terry and Linda Bollea, aka Mr. and Mrs. Hulk Hogan, are throwing some major verbal attacks at

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one another.  Accusations flew in the most recent court hearings this week of Linda Bollea spending the vast majority of her $40,000 monthly temporary alimony payments on drugs.  In fact, two witnesses showed up and testified they’ve witnessed her snorting cocaine and taking a painkiller known as Roxycodon.  She also heard them testify to her expensive marijuana habit as well. 

A judge has been doling out the cash as needed to both parties.  That has to sting.  To have to ask for permission to spend one’s own money must be a difficult process for Terry Bollea.  He’s said to be worth over $10 million, but he said in court that unless his family reeled in its spending habits, he’d be broke within a year.  The fact he’s been ordered to pay the $40k monthly payment on top of all of her expenses, including credit cards, trainers, housekeepers and car payments and maintenance surely is taking a toll.  To add insult to injury, she’s now claiming she’s living below the standard of living she’d grown accustomed to as Mrs. Hulk Hogan.  She’s petitioned the court for an increase in her monthly allowance, all the while, her husband’s legal team is arguing for the judge to reduce the payments. 

Since his son, Nick, was a minor in 2007 when he was arrested for causing a serious brain injury to his once-friend during a car crash, the Bolleas’ have shouldered all of his legal fees.  Many believe this is what marked the beginning of the end of their 23 year marriage. 

The judge also heard Bollea’s argument today that he’s unable to provide for his family since his wrestling career is all but over.  A recent back surgery only adds to the long list of health problems and injuries many wrestlers suffer with.  His hopes of playing an active role in the upcoming Wrestlemania seem to be fading. 

In the meantime, the accusations are still flying, the name calling is still being traded and the divorce attorneys are working overtime to keep their respective clients quiet and not so much in the limelight.  What can they do, though?  Two entitled people who’ve lived charmed lives all these years won’t buckle easily and aren’t apt to take orders from anyone, whether it’s a judge or their own attorney.

I’m still trying to understand the train wreck best known as the Bollea Divorce Scandal.  Accusations of Bollea, aka Hulk Hogan, fooling around with women half his age, accusations of his wife, Linda, fooling around with men half her age, declarations of understanding OJ Simpson’s mentality, accusations of steroids and rage….it goes on and on.  Meanwhile, their son recently served jail time for destroying his friend’s life due to his “need for speed” and the consequences of racing at 100+ speeds in a car no one should be allowed to own before they’re 25.  That pesky testosterone gets in the way every time.

Where and when does it stop for these people?  Their over-the-top lifestyles clearly didn’t include room for any level of dignity or self-respect.  That’s truly sad because at one time, at least in the wrestling world, Hulk Hogan was the hero in every kid’s eyes.  This hero was quoted as saying just this week, “I could have turned everything into a crime scene, like OJ, cutting everybody’s throat” to a reporter for Rolling Stone.  The Mrs. has struck back as a result of his latest verbal assault with accusations of fights that went too far and yet another mention of steroid rage due to his chosen career.  They both have excellent attorneys who are most probably lying awake at night figuring out new ways to keep their clients quiet.  Their very public

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lifestyle is left wide open for public ridicule, which is happening on a daily basis.  Keep in mind, this is the same family that had the once-popular reality series, “Hogan Knows Best” that painted a relatively sane picture of an American family - or so we thought.

Neither of these people is hiding their affairs.  Bollea has seen “some shaggy haired pool boy” who’s thirty years younger than his wife driving his Escalade and knows is playing happy homemaker in his house, with his wife and in his bed.  On the other hand, he’s not even tried to keep his own affairs secret.  But despite all of this, and just when you think it can’t get any worse, there’s one fact that seems to have gotten lost in this insanity: They’re still married!

Has anyone else noticed what appears to be an incredibly high divorce rate in Hollywood? Well, it’s Hollywood. And yes, it’s open for interpretation, especially when it seems these folks go to great lengths to hide aspects of life that all of us are affected by at some point. Teenage pregnancy, bankruptcies, and even the occasional trip over their own feet - which, by the way, I happen to be an expert at. But the divorces….now there’s an interesting topic, not because we enjoy seeing human weakness and grief, but because we seldom DO see it. Those basic human emotions are reminders that we’re alive and kicking, that we have souls that grieve and recognize loss. I’m fully aware that these are very intimate emotions and most of us grieve in private. So why do we hear and see the materialistic aspects of these divorces? Or better still, why do we see the vulnerabilities in everyone involved in the divorce EXCEPT the hubby and his Mrs?

A perfect example is the red hot divorce that’s on the horizon for Alex and Cynthia Rodriguez. There’ve been claims of affairs with Madonna, accusations of the kids being held hostage for a more appropriate divorce settlement and just downright meanness. It seems there is invariably one spouse who feels slighted because the settlement includes 42 million dollars instead of 61 million dollars. How do you spend that kind of money in one lifetime? And what exactly does one thinks happens to the money after death? Are they anticipating a BMW dealership in Heaven…or Hell or whatever one believes happens after…well, you know…after.

I know what’s coming after these next few sentences, but here goes. The spouses who are holding out on signing divorce papers usually are the wives because they feel as though they’ve “sacrificed” a part of their lives for their husband’s career. Did their wedding vows include being tied to a radiator during the course of the marriage? You have to live your life and if you have a husband (or wife) who provides monies for the luxuries of the easy life, just what exactly have you sacrificed? When do all of these extravagancies, month long vacations, diamonds, titles for twelve estates and anything else money buys go from “living well” to “sacrificing”? Even more disgusting is the fact that the kids are always, without fail, pawns in this selfish process.

Just go through some of the more recent divorces - Paul McCartney and Heather Mills (I’m not even going to comment on that one!), Britney Spears and Kevin Federline, Terry and Linda Bollea (Mr. and Mrs. Hulk Hogan) and my all-time favorite: Donald and Ivana Trump. The common denominator is money.

I have an idea. Since there seems to be a belief that one’s worth is based on the settlement, I believe I’ve come up with a solution. This will also provide a lesson for some of these misled people. To prove that one doesn’t need 79 trillion dollars a month in spousal support and can actually build a very nice life on far less, how about a workshop aimed at rebuilding self-esteem after having lived through such a traumatic marriage that was filled with sacrifices? It can be a small workshop with only a…let’s see….a ten thousand dollar fee, we’ll invite a hundred recently divorced, tragedy-ridden, botox stuffed Hollywood-ites. Take the fees and then use that windfall of money to show some of these people that you don’t have to sacrifice and that believe it or not, one can actually make solid financial decisions and investments on such a diminutive amount of money. They’ll emerge as far more confident and independent people and I’ll have a nice paycheck for one afternoon.

I realize my tone and I am making light of it. On a serious note, why aren’t these people listening to their attorneys? If I found myself in a very public divorce where there are millions at stake, if my lawyer says to me:

“There’s too much greed, manipulation, hurt feelings, hatred and spite. You need to slow down, consider your kids and work on trying to get through this with a little dignity, some decorum of maturity, a little patience and tolerance and PLEASE…learn how to bite your tongue!”

I believe I’d listen. At some point, you have to put it in perspective. Lose the focus on how many millions you stand to gain, but instead, focus on the knowledge that you most likely will never have to struggle financially, college is covered for your kids, you can travel, you can volunteer…but another three million dollars added on to a fourteen million dollar settlement just isn’t going to matter ten years from now. And if it does, then you’ll know it wouldn’t have mattered anyway - if you can blow millions that quickly, you’re in far more trouble then than having to face a judge now.